2 Mindful Ways to Make Time for your Dreams
(in 10 minutes or less)
There is never enough time, if you are awaiting time to avail itself. You must make time for your dreams. But How? When? Most of us don’t have the luxury of not working. Many work 1 or 2 jobs, pick up/drop off children to school/sports practices/after school programs/summer camps or simply are trying to squeeze extra hours out of an already jammed pack day. Before work is rushed and after work is stressful fighting traffic/cooking dinner. Work-life balance can be difficult and weekends are for errands. Hopefully, after reading this article you can find your rhythm and make the time to do something you love-work on your dreams.
So where do we find the time? In the words of Les Brown, “How BAD do you want it? You gotta be HUNGRY!!!” If you’re not hungry, then this post isn’t for you. Otherwise, SCHEDULE the time for your hopes, goals and DREAMS!
1. Plan your day the night before. More importantly, write down your schedule hour by hour each day. Most calendar/planners cost too much (unless you go to the dollar store) and don’t have the type of format that is needed. I love Mead planners hourly/daily/weekly/monthly calendars which cost $10-$30 (but I’ve used dollar store calendars/planners as well, they all work the same). However, you can also jot down your schedule on a napkin, a sticky note, the notepad on your cellphone or a scratch sheet of paper-(I’ve done all of the above, ask my friends, they hate all my calendars (I have 3 calendars right now) and think that I’m a dinosaur because I write on scraps of paper-which I never seem to lose).
I’m not telling you something I’ve heard, these are tools that I and other successful people utilize on a daily basis to plan their days, and ultimately their lives. These are successful habits of professionals, business gurus and millionaires. And me, with my 3 jobs and a possible. LBVS -laughing but very serious. These schedules/calendars also helped me stay on track throughout the doctorate program while working 2 jobs.
Here’s a sample of a daily schedule:
4am alarm goes off/wake up/ Affirmation alert on cellphone “l give thanks to God as the source of my supply” and “Nothing is too big or too good for you”
4:30am roll over for one more snooze, thank God for a new day, read my meditation
5am Get up/Bathroom/Shower/Get dressed
6am-6:15am Out the door/commute to work (enjoy the trip, view the scenery, listen to music, breathe deeply)
6:45am-7am arrive at work
5pm off work/I’m OUT! (Leave work at WORK. jot down what you need to do tomorrow and don’t think about it again until the next day)
5:15pm commute home
7pm-8pm relax/wind down/write in gratitude journal/ complete homework/ attend class
8pm-10pm work on my DREAM
*Disclaimer. Sometimes I don’t follow my schedule completely but it is still useful to have one as a guide. Be kind to yourself and give yourself a break, if you don’t follow the plan. I don’t always actively work on my dreams everyday but I’m often envisioning/thinking/talking about my dream, even if it’s in a passive manner. Keep your dream/s at the forefront of your mind. Remember your WHY. Why do you want this dream to become REAL? Who will it help? What will happen to you/others if you don’t fulfill your dream? Is this really your dream/passion (or is this someone else’s dream)?
2. Find an accountability partner/group. Select 1 person or accountability group whom you can share your hopes, goals and dreams and will remind you of what you said that you would do (in an encouraging way) on a daily, weekly or monthly basis. This accountability partner does not necessarily need to have the same goals as you or live in the same state as you, they can be a social media friend, an associate, family member, coworker, or mentor. The accountability partner will ask you about your 1 small goal for the week that leads to a larger goal (your dream).
For example, I will eat salads on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays (smaller goal, couple weeks to accomplish) that leads to your larger goal of eating healthy/living a healthier lifestyle (larger goal, months/years to accomplish).
Another example, I will send one email/phone call this week (small goal) to meet/interview someone at the top of their game in the field that I wish to enter (entrepreneur, teacher, construction worker, military, business leader, politician, realtor, makeup artist/MUA, etc) in order to feel inspired to take my next big step towards my goal/dream to become___________& to open my own business by ____________(enter the date you will accomplish this larger goal).
As it pertains to my dream goals, I have different groups of accountability partners/accountability groups (and visionboards with dates attached to each goal), for each of my goals (ie, study group for psychologist exam, Black Girls Run, church/spiritual activities, etc).
I read an article with a study that found many women usually socialize with the same group of friends (let’s say you have 5 girlfriends) and try to do everything/all activities with these same 5 girlfriends (shopping, church/spiritual activities, entertainment, gym buddy, etc) While on the other hand, men socialize differently, they interact in various different friend groups (For example, men may have 2 gym friends, 3 church/spiritual friends, 4 coworkers and very few, if any, of these friends overlap or are within the same friend circle). (I can’t recall where I read this study, otherwise I’d reference it.) So women I’m challenging you to step outside the box and find different groups of friends/accountability partners because maybe your accountability partner/group is outside of your current sister circle.
Here is an acronym for DREAMS
Set aside an intentional space for you to dream (in your home/your comfy chair/your car/coffee shop/at the beach).
Plan specific blocks of time (7am-7:30am)
and add it to your calendar and “To Do List”
“Your attention goes where your energy flows”. Start working through your blockages, fears and failures from the past concerning your dream so you can have more energy. Speak to and affirm yourself and your dreams. Believe and feel that you can and you will accomplish your dreams no matter what the “haters” or negative vibes are telling you. You must believe in your dream before anybody else will and long before your dream manifests.
Currently, your dream may be in the seed stage and will need your faith to water the dream so it can grow & produce. Get around gardeners and seek the SUNLIGHT-those who speak life to you and your dreams. Pray, meditate and confide in an accountability partner or accountability group to help keep you uplifted and on track to fulfill your dreams.
You will manifest the vision that God placed inside of you. God will send the right people at the right time, in the right place, after you have put in the hardwork. Doors will start opening for you. You will walk in your purpose and your dreams will manifest exactly how and when they are supposed to. Nobody can stop you from fulfilling your dreams but yourself. Nobody can fulfill your dream better than you. You were born for such a time as this to manifest your dream/purpose/destiny.
The excitement kicks in …& now that you have manifested your dreams people will take you more
And there you have it ….a simple PLAN to make time for your Dreams
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Dr. Ngonzi Truth Crushshon, Psy.D. is a license-eligible clinical psychologist, professor, and best-selling author. She has written for the Huffington Post and various local magazines on mental health and self-care.